Determining Your Own Reality
Over the years my work as a photography teacher has brought me into contact with a lot of interesting and highly motivated people. It's always great when, in such a tough industry, those who undertake formal studies as a means to find employment are able to transit from the world of a well-tendered student to that of an independent working photographer. Some, because of their own personality, talent and tenacity are able to make that transition without even completing formal studies. Others are good students but, not being able to find one of very few full-time positions in the industry and without the capabilities or desire to run their own business, flounder. For those folks jobs on the fringe of the industry (e.g. camera stores, distributors) or, alternatively, in an aligned industry are often the best solution.
Sadness, anxiety and even heartache are temporary if we choose them to be so. They are also necessary. Without loss how could we understand love, without despair we would undervalue bliss. No one lives in a bubble, the outside world does impact our life. But that doesn't mean we have to allow it to do so at the expense of our own happiness. If you have a horrible boss you have 3 choices available to you
- Stay mad and miserable in this seemingly hopeless situation. This is the easiest choice and many folks find a sense of identify and significance in identifying themselves as a victim. I know this from personal experience and its one of the reasons why people choose to enter or remain in destructive relationships.
- Learn to better understand your bosses point of view and motivations. You may find you even pity them. As a result the power relationship will change and you may find a sense of freedom from the stress you'd previously believed they were responsible for causing.
- Get out and get on with life. This takes real courage, which is why few of us, including our bosses, do it.
Perhaps our shared purpose in life is to bring happiness into the lives of others. But to be able to do that in a sustained, meaningful way we first have to be happy ourselves.
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